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Same-sex parenting and same-sex marriage

By Eric Porter - posted Monday, 18 September 2017


The second observation follows from the first: the 2004 policy reduces the APA to an advocacy group and, hence, means it is not an impartial judge of the research in the area. Consider this: even if the claim were true that all research up to 2004 had found no connection between parenting effectiveness and sexual orientation, the APA could not possibly predict the results of future research. This means the policy is not just a response to research already completed but a categorical claim about all research, including studies yet to be undertaken. It also means that anyone who relies on the APA as an impartial judge of the relevant literature is being misled.

Social science research is inherently political. The research condemned as ‘unscientific’ by bodies like the APA and APS, is often identified with the political right: either the individual researcher is ‘outed’ as a conservative; or the research funding is traced to some conservative interest group or think tank. While such claims are often true, this does not of itself invalidate the research findings. If it did, then all research would be invalid simply because all social research is unavoidably political. Accusations of right-wing bias have a familiar ring but research that avoids such indictment is not thereby unbiased – rather, it is biased to the left. Concluding that same-sex parenting is the equal of heterosexual parenting is determined largely by the prior ideological commitment of the researchers.

No research methods are value-neutral. They are like a viewfinder that shapes how things are seen and understood. Thus, no research method is ever a perfectly ‘objective’ view of reality ‘as it really is’. The method itself defines the topic in advance, emphasises some aspects rather than others, and places the subject matter within a broader interpretive context.

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This no less true of the ‘scientific’ methods employed to evaluate same-sex parenting. For instance, a favoured approach is comparison; that is, researcher attempts to compare the wellbeing of children brought up by same-sex parents with children brought up by heterosexual parents. As the APS argues, such comparisons assume that the children brought up by heterosexual parents represent the “gold standard” against which those of same-sex parents can be evaluated. If the results are similar for both groups, then same-sex parenting is not considered detrimental to child wellbeing.

Now this is understandable when the research is being used in court to decide custody cases, a declared aims of both APA and APS policy. When two biological parents are contending for care of their children, neither should be disadvantaged by their sexual preference. Fair enough. But this comparison approach does somewhat narrow the debate about parenting and same-sex marriage. Thus, treating the children of heterosexual parents as the “gold standard” assumes there is nothing wrong with heterosexual parenting as it currently stands. But what if heterosexual parenting itself is in a state of crisis or decline? There are good reasons for thinking it is. A copious research literature has concluded that the nuclear family is in decline, and this decline has underpinned a deterioration in parenting. If this is the case, then the comparison is meaningless.

The APS itself is critical of measuring parenting against the gold standard of heterosexual parenting but for a different reason – because it enforces “heterosexism”. This is the expectation that same-sex parents will conform to the heterosexual model. The APS believes this excludes diversity and, hence, individual freedom. But, if we don’t compare same-sex parenting to heterosexual parenting, how can we judge the quality of same-sex parenting? The APS believes it has independent criteria for judging the wellbeing of children – and on these criteria, it believes the family is diversifying not declining. Families can take virtually any form because what is vital to child wellbeing is “processes” (parenting quality, relationships etc) rather than “structure” (number, gender, sexuality and co-habitation status of parents).

This is ideology. While the nuclear family may not be the “gold standard” it is the model for every other family in Australia. Even a gay couple bringing up adopted children is seeking to emulate a received set of practices represented by the nuclear family. Without that model, why would they even seek a joint parenting role? Every other family configuration is both logically and historically a variation on that model. And those variations generally represent a deterioration in family.

The decline in the family is generally associated with an increase in family instability. Though divorce rates have decreased from a peak in the mid-1990s, those figures do not include de facto relationships that now represent over forty percent of couples. De facto relationships have become an accepted prelude to marriage but they also serve as a far less stable substitute, at times reduced to a revolving door of partners. Unfortunately, over thirty-five percent of Australian births now occur in these more unstable de facto relationships. One-parent families, one third of which are in poverty, are also on the increase. Even inside ostensibly stable marriages, childcare is now often out-sourced to day-care, even from dawn till dusk. Increasing numbers of children thus suffer instability and insecurity through varying degrees of parental estrangement either from each other or from the children – or both. This decline thus provides another reason heterosexual parenting is not the gold standard of parenting.

There is another dimension to the parenting problem which has implications for understanding same-sex marriage (SSM). Marriage has a much broader import and meaning than simply the immediate wellbeing of the children. Even if the evidence did support the claim that the children of same-sex parenting face no disadvantages, SSM would still be deficient in other ways. Extensive research shows how having the biological parents do the parenting supports social and moral order. This research suggests that the unique relationship mothers have with their child creates a bond that facilitates child development. Fathers’ relationship to their offspring are also unique though in different way. Through marriage they affirm responsibility for their children and, hence, for the consequences of their sexual desires. But it is in the combination of masculine and feminine that heterosexual parenting is at its best.

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By uniting biology and socialisation, act and consequence, marriage imposes collective moral responsibility upon individuals. It links them to purposes bigger than themselves: an immediate link to a child as an independent person; and through the child, to the future of society. That future parents will only see in part; typically their child will live on beyond them. They are thus drawn into the community not just by self-interest but by the interests of another whose purpose transcends them, forming a link between the past and the future, a moral link where individuals are bound together through acts of giving without expectation of return. This is what is meant when we say marriage is made real in the procreation of children. Even if the biological parents end up divorced, they remain very tangibly and indissolubly united in the care and love of their children. And it is those links that are fundamental to society, both practically and morally.

In this way, judging parenting only on the consequences for the children tends to focus narrowly on the individual, diverting attention from broader social considerations. Marriage is a social institution and parenting has a social purpose above and beyond the immediate wellbeing of individuals. Obviously the individual and the social are inextricably linked but a concentration on the individual neglects issues of social responsibility and obligation that are important in themselves, shaping and delimiting individual attitudes and behaviours.

In the debate about same-sex marriage, questions of parenting and families are unavoidable. Unfortunately the waters are muddied by unfounded claims that all the “scientific” research detects no meaningful differences between heterosexual and same-sex parenting. Moreover, the focus on parenting obscures broader concerns about the functions of marriage as a social institution. In the debate about same-sex marriage, it is this set of issues that we ignore at our peril.

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Eric Porter is an historian who until recently taught politics and political economy at RMIT.

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