A public service is needed for the unlucky in love

We observe that in all animals, the male pursues and the female chooses. That choice is based on her need for security. She subconsciously chooses the male who she feels can protect herself and her progeny. The female’s focus on security is DNA-driven. This is the reason that so many attractive women marry relatively powerful men - regardless of the man’s appearance. This is the reason that so many women stay with abusive partners.

Why do teenagers feel indestructible? It is for good reason. The DNA-generated self-repair mechanisms in young bodies are robust so that they can reach reproductive age and live long enough to get their progeny up to reproductive age.

If this is so, then it should follow that if DNA is totally focused on being passed on to the next generation, then a woman should expire soon after menopause. But all that DNA needs is to ensure that the mechanisms are in place for reproduction when young. Why should it bother to create a mechanism to switch everything off when not young? Decline is left to occur through natural wear and tear. The woman’s liver, lungs, kidneys, and so on, which she needed to get the next generation going, are so efficient that their own momentum keeps them rolling along for years afterwards. But, this efficiency is good in one way and not so good in another. If too old to be a mother, your DNA has not closed down the organic mechanisms to cause emotional havoc. After menopause, you can still fall madly in love and feel like dying when rejected.

It is through romantic love that DNA transfers its own ‘hopes’ via the mechanisms of its own making to the host human’s mind. It does not care that when it takes over the mind with romantic love, the damage to the subjugated mind can be terrible when the euphoria crashes into the blackest of holes.

DNA is ruthless. All that matters to it is that more of the species reproduce than not reproduce. If you are lonely or sexually frustrated - then too bad. How can we combat DNA’s bad attitude - and even assist DNA’s ambitions in the process?

Enter the state

There is something upon which we all agree: the sole reason for a government’s existence is to minimise the problems associated with its citizens’ existence. That obligation would surely apply to the central problem of life - which biology tells us is to find a suitable mate.

So, I am saying that the state is actually obliged to enter into an area that has always been assumed to be none of its business - because it has mistakenly regarded the matching of man with woman as being an individual’s problem - and not the huge social (and even economic) problem that it is. The state must become involved in the central problem of life by providing a matchmaking service. The state’s involvement would automatically build a public perception that engaging a matchmaker is not shameful, but is a good life-management practice.

While some adjust to the childless life without any significant problem, a feeling of failure can have serious psychological and even consequential physical effects in others. Thus, as it is a health issue, the service should be within the public health services. Psychology as a science has come a long way and has a lot to offer.

Many are attempting to make their own luck by using the internet. But the all-important third party is missing in internet dating. A third party is crucial as none of us can objectively recognise our limitations when either star-struck or feeling desperate.

As a supposedly compassionate society, we cannot stand by and allow a very time-wasting hit-or-miss process being played out as our fellow humans strive to solve the central problem in their lives.  All of us need our lives managed for us - regardless of how smart we think we are.