Single-sex is best (sometimes)

Of course, nothing in this piece should suggest that boys are all the same or that girls are all the same. That is nonsense. But seen as a whole, boys and girls can offer some strong contrasts.

So far, these considerations suggest that boys and girls might learn better in separate classrooms and playgrounds, under some circumstances.

There is another side to the argument. Boys and girls can often learn from each other. Faced with a task, girls commonly work out carefully what they are supposed to do, and might check with the teacher if necessary. Boys would be more likely to rush ahead, start to manipulate materials and so on. Neither of these approaches is right; neither is wrong. Both can be productive. But boy-girl pairs can be one neat way of getting boys and girls to learn from each other.

Education is an enormous task: preparing oneself for life as an adult. It is far more than getting a school-leaving score. And so the whole question of socialisation must be considered. There are good grounds for believing that a co-ed school can indeed give boys and girls the full experience of adolescent life. Boys and girls might usefully co-operate in the school play, in debates, or in putting on a swimming carnival.

Some co-ed schools use some single-sex classes to get the best of both worlds. English is a very important subject which carries over into every other subject. It’s about clear writing; completely understanding what an author is saying; following instructions; and careful listening. As we saw earlier, girls and boys typically have different strengths and weaknesses as well as different interests. Reading is a case in which boys and girls often seem to go in different directions.

A US teacher wrote recently that her girls preferred Anne of Green Gables while the boys loved The Indian in the Cupboard.

In a 6th grade class, I was reading The Princess Bride. The boys were all quietly groaning until I read a sentence about someone who stabbed the villain, with the words (I think this is more or less right) “Take that, you bastard!” The boys roared with pleasure, and insisted that I read more.

Girls can tolerate reading about boys. But boys usually hate books about nice, sweet girls. Girls are usually happy to discuss - a word that fills most boys with loathing: “What’s the point?” they demand. Boys usually prefer to learn in active ways, often on the Internet, with relevance to their lives being the keynote. Thus same-sex English classes may be productive for each sex, while boys and girls could usefully mix for most other subjects, for sport and in the playground.

There is no clear-cut answer for all parents. Some children may learn more in a co-ed school; some in a single-sex. There are so many variables within these two large categories. What I usually suggest is that the parents visit the school with the child. They should talk to teachers and importantly, children at the school. The “feel” of the school is important. Relevant questions are:

1. What results have been obtained in basic skills tests or similar whole- school tests?
2. How important is sport in the whole life of the school? Are children who are sports stars praised above others?
3. What is a successful student, according to teachers?
4. Do children at the school seem happy and friendly?
5. What special interests does the school allow children to explore, for example, in languages or music?
6. How many computers are available? How recently were they bought? What computer skills do teachers have?

If the school principal is unapproachable or unhelpful then he or she doesn’t really want your children. If she or he is friendly or helpful then listen carefully and think about the answers you are given. Schools are meant to serve children and parents, not be nice places for teachers to work.

Remember that there can be 100 different kinds of single-sex or co-ed school. Keep your eyes open, ask lots of questions, and follow your instincts. And if the school really isn’t working; if Mary or Johnny is really bored - change the school.