Love conquers almost all

The same would apply to young women.

Any couples with children considering emigration should know that if they split up - and if one wants to go home - OK, but not with the children …

Whatever logical calculation goes toward the decision about a life partner, homesickness should be added to the equation.

Choosing with eyes open means understanding the losses: not being there when a sister marries, or when a beloved grandparent dies. Not having lunch with your mother or laughs with your brother. Your children will only know one set of grandparents. Your old school friends vanish. When your parents age, you will not be there to help them: you are far across the oceans.

And that’s if the marriage stays together …

Add children, factor in a break-up and the losses multiply.

Seeing two people in love, wanting a family, who’s going to say, “Don’t do it!” But anyone considering marrying someone with deep connections to another place should consider the implications long before they book the limosine.