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Stop the dad bashing

By Cindy McGarvie - posted Friday, 4 September 2020


"Or just a mom. Or just a dad – I really don't care," he told the station, adding that he's sad he also doesn't get to see his little brother anymore.

"The reason it's important is because so I could have some people to talk to anytime I need to..."

Just a mum or a dad to believe in him, to feel proud of him and to think he is the best thing since sliced bread.

When boys his age are wishing for heroes and adventures, this little guy is crying out for his most basic need, one that has set him back for life –a family and at least a parent, a mum or a dad.

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Warren Farrell who co-authored The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys are Struggling and What We Can Do About It was interviewed on the topic of fatherlessness:

The frequency at which fathers are absent has been devastating for the development of boys.' Farrell 'pointed to research showing that boys without fathers fare worse than boys with fathers on more than 70 different metrics.' He went on to say, 'They're much more likely to drink, much more likely to do drugs, much more likely to be depressed, much more likely to be suicidal, much more likely to be violent, much more likely to be in prison and they're also much more likely to commit mass shootings.

Much more likely to do and experience every negative self-destructive thing a boy could imagine, and to suffer the psychological torments that come with them such as shame, self-loathing and addiction. This is in addition to the separation trauma that impacts children when a family breaks down and the father leaves the home.

The metric for slowed academic development in fatherless boys is sobering. Farrell's book cites a study that boy's IQ in the UK have dropped a massive 15 points since the 1980's, this is due to a number of contributing factors including less time spent with a father in those early years.

Information such as this highlights the ignorance and recklessness of much of the current feminist movement's agenda to emasculate our men and devalue the role they play in families and society. As this grievance-based empty philosophy seeps into the minds of our kids through the dominant cultural influences, it will continue to harm because it's turning our young men into obsequious weaklings.

As Father's Day approaches may we have a renewed appreciation for the gift of fatherhood and the essential role that fathers play in shaping the identity of their children, particularly their boys.

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It's time for a little respect.

Post Script: After young Jordan's heart-rending plea on the television interview, the foster care agency in the U.S. received around 5000 inquiries of interest to adopt him, and it looks like by the time he reaches his tenth birthday he'll get his wish. However, he has a long journey ahead from the setbacks and impact of fatherlessness on his development and wellbeing.

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This article was first published on the Youth for Christ Lost Boys Blog.



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Cindy McGarvie is National Director of Youth for Christ Australia. After serving in the Australian Army, she and her husband went on to serve as missionaries with Wycliffe Bible Translators in East Africa for twelve years where they raised their five children. Her latest book Lost Boys: Bring Them Home was published in February 2020.

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